:: the sweetness of sovereignty ::
learning to stay steady in a fast-paced world.
Winter has a way of pulling me inward. The cold, the quiet, the early nights — all of it ushers me into deep slowness, into a kind of stillness and quietude that can feel both nourishing and, at times, disorienting. In these months, I often find myself wrestling with the tension between wanting to stay open and feeling the instinct to close, to retreat, to shut down in the face of the frigid air.
A wise elder recently reminded me to stay open to what winter has for me, to stay present and attentive to the teachings of this quiet time. Even amidst the discomfort, there is medicine there.
What has winter been teaching you lately?
I have been learning through this time of deep listening — that sovereignty is a daily practice. It is a constant devotion to staying with myself, choosing how I move, how I tend to my body, how I honor my needs regardless of what the world is doing around me. It is remembering that I get to decide how I want to feel, how I meet the changing seasons, how I hold myself through the ebbs and flows of energy and emotion.
In a world that moves so quickly, in a culture that demands urgency, and often glorifies productivity over presence, staying sovereign in my experience means choosing to slow down anyway. It means choosing to soften anyway. It means not getting swept up in the collective overwhelm, not absorbing the chaos, not letting external noise dictate my inner state.
Sensuality is part of this sovereignty. It is the practice of staying in deep communion with my body, my senses, my inner world—even when everything around me feels hurried, disconnected, or disoriented. It is the act of turning inward, listening, attuning. It is the choice to remain open, receptive, and present, even when the world tells me to rush past myself. It is a conscious decision to feel.
This week, I have been taking advantage of every brief moment of sunshine that appears, to pause and tend to my nervous system. I am loving the simple practices of walking barefoot in the soil, turning towards the Sun for warmth, and listening to the sweet birdsongs swirl around me :: pure joy activators.
Pausing has not always been easy. In the past, I’ve resisted slowness, afraid that stillness meant stagnation. My fear of spiraling into prolonged bouts of soul stuckness kept me unrealistically busy and in a state of constantly overriding my body. I’ve felt disconnected from myself for most of my life, unsure how to access my sensuality when everything around me felt chaotic. I’ve struggled with the misconception that pleasure is something external — something that requires heat, movement, a lover’s touch — rather than something that lives within me, always available, always waiting to be met.
This is why I’m holding The Sweetness of Sovereignty, my next L.O.O.M. Full Moon Gathering, tomorrow from 5:00-6:30 pm PT. This space was born from my own journey of learning to embrace the wisdom of the body, the cycles of energy, and the power of presence.
L.O.O.M. is a sacred space for weaving together our bodies, our intuition, and our creativity — just as a loom holds threads in place to birth something whole, unique and beautiful. It is an acronym that stands for Listening, Opening, Offering, and Moving, guiding us back into deeper connection with ourselves, the cycles of nature, and the wisdom of our inner world. Each gathering is an invitation to slow down, tune in, and alchemize what’s stirring within through movement, meditation, and creative expression.
This Leo Full Moon invites us to reclaim the seat of our power, sensuality, joy, and intuition—our sacral chakra, the sacred wellspring of our creative and sensual essence. We cannot access our innate strength and magic if we are disconnected from our sense of self. For 90 minutes, we will slow down to drop in, to listen and reconnect with our own essence.
This gathering is for those who long to feel more at home in their bodies, more attuned to their inner rhythms, more sovereign in their choices, and more open to the pleasure that exists in every breath, every moment, every shift in the seasons.
Sovereignty is not about control — it is about trust.
Pleasure is not about excess — it is about presence.
I hope you’ll join me.
May you find ways to tend to yourself this week, to slow down and be gentle with your precious heart. We are in it together.
more soon,
kohlibri xx